Liars can be really difficult to deal with.
This is partly because their specialty is bending the truth and trying to warp reality to make other people believe their falsehoods.
This can be confusing, and can sometimes even go under the radar without you noticing for quite some time.
But here’s the problem with liars.
Eventually, their lies become exposed—and when this happens, it can be difficult to know how to deal with them, especially if it’s a friend, family member, or loved one who’s doing the lying.
So in this post, you’re going to learn four crucial steps that you can take to help you deal with liars and hopefully solve the problem.
Let’s dive into it.
1. Confront Them With The Lie
The best way to do this is gently and privately.
Sit down with them in a non-threatening manner.
Let them know that you’ve discovered something that has bothered you, and then confront them with the very specific and exact nature of the lie.
Don’t be vague here.
It’s really important that you be as specific as possible so that they understand exactly what you’re talking about, and that there’s no confusion as to what the issue is.
2. Show Them Your Evidence
Whenever you confront a liar about something they’ve done or said, it’s important that you present them with evidence to show why you realize that they’ve been lying.
This basically makes it a lot more difficult for them to plead plausible deniability.
Liars will often continue lying to try to keep from being discovered in their lies.
Therefore, it’s really important to present them with as many hard facts about the lie as possible in an attempt to fully discredit the falsehood.
3. Watch For Signs Of Regret Or Remorse
Watch for signs of regret or remorse when a liar realizes that they’ve been caught in a lie.
If they don’t show it, that’s not a good sign.
There are really only two different ways that this can go.
First, they’re highly likely to try to lie to avoid admitting guilt.
They may spin bigger lies, tell more stories, and add more complexity on top of what’s already there.
They’ll try really hard to make it sound convincing.
But here’s the thing.
It’s really important that you remain firm in your evidence.
If the evidence says that it was a lie, then you need to treat it like a lie.
If the liar can’t get away with this, they may try to guilt-trip you into seeing them as the victim.
This is also a manipulative tactic, and it’s important that you don’t fall for it.
4. Walk Away
Unfortunately, if the liar won’t admit their fault, take responsibility for the action, and promise to change their behavior—there’s really not much you can do about it.
The bad thing about liars is that they can spread chaos and destruction in whatever lives they’re involved in.
And as someone who wants to be healthy, well, and successful, you really can’t afford to have someone who lies taking part in bringing destruction into your life.
Therefore, it may be a good idea to withdraw from this person and to cease giving them access to your inner circle and existence.
This can sometimes be difficult to do.
But here’s the thing.
If someone gets caught in a lie, and they won’t admit what they did wrong and try to legitimately change their behavior—well, there’s nothing you can do about it.
You can’t control what other people do.
The best thing to do in such cases is really just to walk away.