Breaking up is never an easy thing.
Regardless of whether you were the one to initiate the break up or not, the simple fact of the matter is that this event is probably going to have a pretty significant impact on your life.
And the longer the relationship was, the bigger that impact is going to be.
Our brains go through a lot of chemical changes when long term relationships come to an end.
You may feel hurt, sad, depressed, rejected, lonely, and hopeless.
You may struggle to see the silver lining in it. And you may even wonder if your life is just going to fall apart.
But here’s the thing:
Breaking up, while not generally a pleasant ordeal, is a fact of life.
In fact, loss in any form is a sad, but necessary part of our human experience.
More than likely, you’re going to move on from this event to become a better person, experience new things, and live your best life yet.
But of course, that optimism can be difficult to see when it’s overshadowed by the dark cloud of loss following the end of a relationship.
The most important thing to tell yourself when going through a breakup is that it’s going to be alright.
You’re going to make it through this.
It may hurt right now.
But the truth of the matter is that those sad feelings will eventually pass in one day.
One day, you’ll wake up and realize that you’ve moved on.
And while the relationship and the breakup certainly changed your world, this present sadness you’re feeling definitely won’t be the end of it, either.
Thankfully, there are some steps you can take to help speed the healing process along.
But don’t forget, it really does take a great deal of patience to move on from something like a breakup.
Following these steps will help to set you on the path.
But it’s important not to rush yourself too fast.
Give yourself time to grieve, then ease gently into these 8 steps.
8 Tips For Getting Over A Breakup
- Cry and let out all of your emotions; don’t hold them in
- Listen to some some sad music, or watch some sad movies; this can help you to remember that your grief is a human emotion, and not unique only to you
- Talk to positive, supportive loved ones
- Read some self help books, especially those that have to do with getting over breakups
- Take care of your body; sleep, eat, and get plenty of exercise
- Take care of your feelings; indulge in some self care, meditation, yoga, etc.
- Start meeting new people
- Set firm boundaries in the aftermath of the breakup, to make sure that you don’t get stuck in post-breakup limbo
There you have it.
8 tips to help you get past this breakup and get on with the rest of your life.
Take some time to be sad. Then, dry those tears.
Hold your head up high, and be confident.
You got this.