We all want to live a good life.
We all want to be happy, successful, and fulfilled.
We want good relationships, a good job, and a decent standard of living.
But here’s the thing.
We all know that life is far from perfect.
And sometimes, it can be a real challenge to make these things work.
Every day, there are countless articles, podcasts, and blog posts published online on the topic of self improvement.
There are also countless books sitting on store bookshelves devoted to this subject.
But in some ways, even with all of this information, making your life better can be an elusive concept.
With so many different information sources to choose from, it can sometimes feel truly overwhelming to figure out what will actually help to make your life better.
Well, in this post, you’re going to learn about one crucial fact that’s essential to self help.
At a foundational level, self help always comes down to two things:
Choices and behaviors.
Let’s talk about it.
Choices Either Make Your Life Better Or Worse
Every time you make a choice in life, your experience is either going to become better or worse.
Each choice is either going to take you toward a better life, or away from it.
So at the fundamental level, one of the most foundational self help principles is to make better choices.
There is a lot of self help material devoted to this.
But at the end of the day, it really all comes down to what you want.
What kind of life do you want to live?
See, one of the great things about being a human is that you get to choose what kind of life you want.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to choose the best life for yourself. But the human experience is, in many ways, characterized by the freedom to choose our own destiny.
Therefore, it’s always important to make choices that align with where you want to go in your life.
This is why it’s valuable to determine what your life purpose is, and why it’s so important to make future goals for yourself.
If you can figure out what you want your life to be like, then you can start making choices that will bring you closer to that ideal.
Behaviors Will Either Move You Forward Or Backward
Making choices is one part of the equation.
But then comes the behavior part of it.
See, you can sit on the couch and make choices all day long.
But if these choices aren’t backed up by behavior of some kind, then they’re not going to take you anywhere.
That’s the general rule of thumb.
Zero momentum generally equals less life success.
It takes effort to carry your life away from chaos toward order, and away from unhappiness to happiness.
Therefore, whenever you make choices, it’s always important to figure out what kind of behavior you’ll need to pair with those choices to take you to where you want to be.
For example, tomorrow you may decide that you’d like to get a different job.
This choice may very well be in line with your life purpose.
But if you never act on it to go out, find a better job, and quit your current job, you’ll never actually make any progress.
And thus, the ‘choice’ won’t actually matter.
Therefore, in this case, the behavior you’re looking for is one that reinforces the good choice.
You want to start putting work into finding a better job; which will allow you to quit your current job, and therefore make your life better in the long run.
At the end of the day, making your life better is actually a really simple process.
But that definitely doesn’t make it easy.
It’s hard work to level up your life and create success for yourself.
But just remember that it all comes down to these two things:
Choices and behaviors.
If you can get these things nailed down, and deploy them in the proper direction, you can steer your life wherever you choose.
It’s like a ship—and you’re the captain.
So get out there and make your goals a reality.
You’ve got this.